If you’re just popping in here, welcome.  If you’d like to dig deeper into this community of special needs and adoptive parents and the community supporting them, I encourage you to connect with me, Gwen Vogelzang, through our newsletter and community.  Scout’s honor to NOT give out your information to anyone, anytime, anywhere.  And I’m not about bombarding your inbox with information you’ll send to the virtual trash can.  Our virtual trash cans are overflowing with noise.

Reach out.  Go ahead.  I love it all.  Well, most of it.


It’ll tickle me hot pink to add you to this community.  And men, this is not a girly place to inhabit.  You’ll feel right at home too.  We’ll learn, we’ll chat, we’ll laugh, and most importantly, we’ll breathe.  Because really, breathing is super important.  

When Consequences Don’t Work

Have you discovered what happens when consequences don't work for your child? Many basic parenting techniques reflect a consequence and rewards system for behavior.  Johnny didn't get ready for school in time and played with his chickens instead of eating breakfast. ...

None of This is Tidy

Whether the misguiding was the fault of the people we trusted to lead us, or our own for not digging and researching and reading and asking, it doesn't matter. None of this is tidy. 11 years ago, when we decided to start our family through adoption, we knew nothing. ...

On the Subject of Dreaming

If you're a parent, specifically a special needs or adoptive/foster parent, do you remember what it feels like to have dreams?  Not dreams for your kids.  Dreams for yourself.  YOU.  Remember her or him? Walt Disney once said, "All our dreams can come true if we have...